Effort vs Effortless
Effort: the work necessary to do something.
Things are an effort when you must do things that you do not want to do, are not confident at doing or are afraid to do.
Effort is only required when you want something but you do not have the drive to find a solution, acquire or accomplish that which you desire.
You only need to put forth effort when you perceive something that is hard. And the only reason that you perceive something is hard is when you know you have to do something that you fear, are not good at, or do not feel like actively participating in.
The “work “necessary to do something is only work because there is resistance at some level to doing it. If there were no resistance to doing something it would be effortless and joyful.
Where do you create “work” in your life rather than effortless joy?
10 Facts About Emotions
1. Emotions themselves are not real!
2. Emotions are a result of a belief system that judges experiences.
3. Emotions are labels that people use as a way to define and communicate feelings that go on within the body and mind in order that they may be understood.
4. Expression of emotions are the result of a belief system
5. All human beings have emotions
6. Human beings tend to be governed by their emotions
7. Emotions are not just for women
8. Emotions tend to create unconscious behaviors
9. Emotions do not make you weak
10. Emotions are misunderstood
The expressions of emotions are the result of a belief system that has become habitual in the display in which a person believes they must/should act based upon experiences that bring about feelings inside of them. These expressions then become “normal” and often become automatic.
Quite often people mistake expressive behaviors as an emotion. Emotions are the cause and the root of expressive behaviors. Expressive behaviors of particular emotions may appear to be common but are not normal.
Emotions are what drive the expressions of the emotions. The expression of emotions does not make a person emotional!
10 Step Recipe to Change Your Life
10 Step Recipe to Change Your Life
1. Recognize- what is going on or you want to change on and acknowledge it to yourself. You may also write what is going on this will help ground the experience into a conscious reality.
2. Do not judge it- do not judge what you have recognized because once you judge it you are again tied to it as a reality that you cannot change. After recognizing it and not judging it now decide on preference. What you would prefer to experience or not prefer to experience.
3. Make a choice- now is the time to choose what you want after you have decided on a preference. Choice in this case is making a commitment to yourself and actually taking action on the direction you have.
4. Take action- taking action in this case is to remove yourself from locations or environments that perpetuate the old way of being. Taking action also includes specifically changing your behaviors and changing your thought processes in order to support your new direction Next is the place yourself into new situations and environments for experimentation of the new direction you’re headed.
5. Do not judge- by this step the temptation to go back to judging your experiences and all of the steps up to this point is often quite tempting. If you find yourself going back to judgment remember step two and go through steps three and four once again, at least in your mind.
6. Do not take no for an answer- if you start to think thoughts like; no I can’t do this, this is not going to work, this is impossible etc. At this stage doubt often creeps in. When you get begin to hear no in your own head or feelings of doubt change the words no and doubt to the word how. How do I do this, how do I make this work, how do I find an answer to this should be your new way of thinking.
7. Continue taking action- at this point begin to consciously put yourself into situations and new experiences in order to practice and develop new skills that will support the direction you have chosen.
8. Get answers- become a solution finder. Get answers to questions or doubts from any and all of your new experiences or situations. Find ways to develop new skills to assist you in freely transitioning from the old way to your new experiences.
9. Practice the new skills- experiment with the new skills that you are learning are having difficulties with. Get comfortable with them and adjust them to your own personality in your own style.
10. Take time to love yourself- care enough about yourself to continue on your chosen journey. Learn to enjoy, embrace, love, care about and unconditionally accept yourself, who you are and your new life free from those old limitations.
If you follow this simple 10 step recipe to change your life, you will find life begin to change quickly. Remember however that thoughts, beliefs, knowings and attitudes must be addressed as well!